Excerpts: No Excuses
Assuming that I may have another forty to fifty years of life ahead of me—and yes, I know there are no guarantees—I wholeheartedly commit to a no-excuses lifestyle, and I aspire to make possibilities become realities.
This is not a revelation for me. I committed to a mindful health regimen back in my college days when I struggled with my own body image. Back then, I was far too hard on myself. Over the years it has become blatantly clear to me that kindness and patience plays a big role in our ability to change and grow. Don’t beat yourself up for your shortcomings; delight in the prospect of what you will do, what you will achieve, and who you will become.
The Front Nine:
The Success Action Plan (SAP)
The 1st Hole – Be Limitless The 2nd Hole – The Aerial Perspective The 3rd Hole – Aspirations The 4th Hole – Excuse Management The 5th Hole – The BIG Push The 6th Hole – Motivation The 7th Hole – Inspiration and Incentive The 8th Hole – The Vision The 9th Hole – Master Strategy
The quest of any game in its simplest form—to be the best you can be and work toward making the win.
If there is one overriding principle in golf, it is the principle of course management. There’s a lot to consider, such as knowing the problems or hazards of the course and how to cope with them in order to score consistently. You have to play smart and position your shots so you can place the ball in the “A” position—that position that allows the best approach for your next shot. Every play counts.
I have spent a great deal of time considering the value of course management in golf. It begins with knowing the layout of the course hole by hole. You rationalize your best shot by mentally playing each hole forward and in reverse: from the tee to the green, and from the green to the tee.
The value of having a vision and the ability to strategize and focus is probably so obvious that I have you thinking, “Lorii, you’re preaching to the choir!” But hear me out. The habits developed from using good course management force you to think clearly before taking every shot just as you need to think clearly before making critical decisions in life. You consider your abilities, the course conditions, and your lie, or the position in which your ball comes to rest, with respect to your next shot, just as you would consider your talents and capabilities with respect to the challenges before you and how to make your next move in life. Perhaps you consider the hazards and the worst-case scenario as well as opportunities and your best possible miss should you not make the shot you intended. And good course management compels you to get your head into the game and to make an absolute decision with respect to your next play (or your next play in life). Gradually, this process reflects in your playing style and can result in incredible consistency and low scores. Your mind and body are working together.
The 1st Hole - Be Limitess
People are complex and diverse beings, and our minds are amazing and powerful tools that need to be “worked.” Although the brain is not a muscle, we need to train it as though it is. Think of building and flexing the brain like a muscle in order to elevate your level of knowledge, awareness, and brilliance. As is often said of muscle mass: use it or lose it! The brain is no different.
The Back Nine
The Lifestyle Prototype
Visualize the Shot
The 10th Hole – Strategy Phase I: Auto-aspire The 11th Hole – Strategy Phase II: Expectations and Being Proactive The 12th Hole – Strategy Phase III: Motivation and Incentives The 13th Hole – Strategy Phase IV: Visualization and Commitment The 14th Hole – Strategy Phase V: Formulate a Curriculum The 15th Hole – Launch Your Success Action Plan The 16th Hole – The No Excuses FIT Lifestyle The 17th Hole – Exercise Your Options The 18th Hole – Become a Champion
In the front nine, we dealt with various attitudes and strategies you need to adopt in order to be successful. In this section, I want you to use the course management approach to create a working success action plan coupled with solid visualization techniques to create a health and fitness lifestyle prototype.
This section, the back nine, can almost be viewed as a separate book. I hope that you continue on and take the challenge to actively work through these holes (chapters). This is where you have the opportunity to build the success action strategies we have discussed, adopting them in your day-to-day life to create winning habits and building strategies for competitive play.
To put that action plan into play, the following nine chapters will reintroduce concepts from the front nine in detail, including a solid working example, and explore what it takes to build a fit, healthy, and strong lifestyle. This will be a visual expression of confidence, your personal body brand, and the resulting lifestyle prototype. Consider the prospect of exercising your mind and body in a new way, in tandem, to reap the benefit of the mind-body-achievement connection.
The 15th Hole - Launch Your Success Action Plan
I’m starting on Monday…yes, really I am!
I have rooted through the pantry, eliminating all the foods that may tempt me to cheat on my new diet. I have my grocery list—a list of healthful, nutritious raw foods. I’ve checked my stash of vitamins to make certain I have everything I need, and lastly, I’ve gone to the basement to ensure my treadmill is still there—it is. I have my stack of fitness magazines out on the coffee table and a Victoria’s Secret flyer to stick on the fridge that I have been saving for this very moment—my inspiration. Technically, I’m ready.
I must admit that I am very fortunate. I have been blessed with youthful looks, great rock-and-roll hair, and for the longest time, a fast-paced metabolism. Until now, I could eat pretty much anything I wanted and get away with it.
But lately, I’ve got this jiggle thing happening. I’ve gained a few pounds, well, maybe fifteen, and I hate it! Time to put the brakes on!
Now let’s look at you. Let’s take a quick look at preparing to launch your new lifestyle: setting goals, setting the pace, and getting totally psyched.
The 19th Hole
Excellence in Motion
I love the concept of the nineteenth hole. It’s the time after the game when you can chill out, when even the fiercest competitors let their guard down and relax. The nineteenth hole is also the fun after the game. It’s grabbing a beer, having some laughs, and reliving the good shots. It’s the time to look at your scorecard, see how you played, and formulate a game plan for what you will do differently the next time out. At that point, you dare to think that not only can you improve and excel, but you believe wholeheartedly that you will. It’s a time for positive thinking.
When I think of excellence in motion, I think of the big picture. Because of the magnitude of this concept, I look at it from an aerial perspective. It is a mindset that challenges the boundaries of self-induced limits—that point where you aspire to exceed your expectations, where the mind-body-achievement connection resides and wins time and time again.
Our thoughts play a big role in all that we do in life. They guide us in our mental and physical strategies, how we feel about things, and how we will act. Positive progressive thoughts bring ideas to life and bring change to fruition. When we actively engage in the pursuit of excellence, questioning the relativity of the impossible and envisioning every last detail of the possible, we are set in motion.
Put some action on your good intentions
Excerpts: Make it Happen
I had a near-death experience when I was twenty. My throat swelled to the point where I could no longer catch my breath. Moments later, while my husband checked me into emergency, I lost consciousness.
When I came to, I was surrounded by doctors and nurses. They had given me a shot of adrenaline and it was starting to work, but I was violently nauseated and couldn’t focus. My face and throat were throbbing and swollen to the point of being unrecognizable.
The Front Nine:
The Make-it-Happen Mindset
From the Tee
The 1st Hole - Enable awareness
The 2nd Hole - Put yourself first
The 3rd Hole - Be your own person
The 4th Hole - Revisit your mental-stability boot camp
The 5th Hole - Gain insight; focus on self-discovery
The 6th Hole - The make-it-happen quotient
The 7th Hole - Obliterate the blame card
The 8th Hole - Become unstoppable
The 9th Hole - Define your make-it-happen quest
Life, like golf, requires you to know the big picture, but as I said in the introduction, big-picture stuff needs to be broken down into manageable parts. In golf, the secret to playing well is to play each hole individually—just as you have to approach each challenge in life individually. Seeing the big picture is important, but breaking it down is required to turn the big picture into parts that can be handled realistically.
One way to look at the big picture in golf involves splitting the game into two distinct sections. First,
“from the tee,” which refers to shots made from the tee and fairway shots; and second, “the short
game,” which refers to shots made near or on the green, usually within a one-hundred-yard radius
of the pin (the flagstick used to mark the location of the hole).
The 1st Hole - Enable awareness
Awareness makes us emotionally brilliant
If you can honestly say that you are fully aware of what you’re up against in life, you are brilliant. Being aware means you are informed—alert, knowledgeable, sophisticated—and you have the tools to visualize, strategize, focus, and win.
The more aware you are of life and its difficulties, of how people act and their effect on you, of your own quirks and how you handle both good and bad situations, the better off you are. But how many of us are that aware?
The Back Nine
The Short Game
The 10th Hole - Use “near-life” experiences
The 11th Hole - Hone your internal reconnaissance
The 12th Hole - Make some risky decisions
The 13th Hole - Cultivate creative license
The 14th Hole - Can the chaos, cull the herd
The 15th Hole - Communicate with sincerity and enthusiasm
The 16th Hole - Create something tangible
The 17th Hole - Rewrite your action script
The 18th Hole - Develop an impetus to succeed
In the front nine, we dealt with the mindset and the action plan you need to adopt and hone in order to be successful in making it happen in your life. Having a plan is a huge part of any successful action. It gives you a goal to strive toward, but there is a lot of work in the process of gaining that end.
If you are familiar with the Eastern philosophy of Taoism, you know that it’s all about the journey,
not the destination. Much paper and ink has been dedicated to that idea over the centuries, and if you think about it, it makes sense. From birth to death, life is a continuous journey, as we all know. And with all its ups and downs, it joys and disappointments, why should we not try to enjoy as much as possible of life’s journey?
The 13th Hole - Cultivate creative license
How can you look at things differently and make them better?
On most par threes, you can often dramatically change the view you have of the pin by carefully
choosing the spot from which to tee the ball. Pro golfers may be so proficient that they plan to have
their first shot finish so that their second shot will be an upward putt, while recreational golfers may
choose to line up so that they take hazards out of play as much as possible. They want their first shot
to provide a safe lie away from hazards, setting them up for an easy approach shot. Both techniques are creative in their approach, thought process and methodology, and both are focused on taking their best shot.
It all begins with how you look at things. Do you generally accept things for what they are? Or do
you speculate, questioning whether things could be better? What would happen if you took a
creative approach in how you look at the world? Could you make things better?
The 19th Hole
Personal achievement optimization
Your life is just beginning
The 19th hole is the fun after the game. It’s grabbing a beer, having some laughs, reliving the good shots, and being razzed about the bad ones. It’s time to look at your scorecard, see how you played, and form a game plan for what you will do differently the next time.
Excerpts: Targeting Success
Copyright 2011 (Lorii Myers)
Today’s workplace requires a new way of thinking. The challenges faced are two-fold: how to self-improve and succeed, and how to thrive through tough economic times. The motivated, “change-ready“ employees and employers lead the way. They dig in, rebuild, and feed the recovery process.
Times of uncertainty breed courage, entrepreneurial spirit, and innovation. There is an urgency to make a difference—there is a need to step up!
The Front Nine:
Self-Perception & Self-Direction
Trust your swing
The 1st Hole: Self-assess and shift your attitude
The 2nd Hole: Learn to improve
The 3rd Hole: Break down barriers
The 4th Hole: Focus on making decisions
The 5th Hole: Upgrade your confidence
The 6th Hole: Accept challenge
The 7th Hole: Relationship equity part one: Recognize positive influence
The 8th Hole: Relationship equity part two: Communicate fairly
The 9th Hole: Utilize your strengths
In school, we had teachers and professors guiding us. They told us when to turn in our homework and what to study for on the tests; they taught us the basics. They were our mentors, feeding our brains, and our referees, keeping us in check, in control, and on track for the most part. For those of you who went through the school system from 1970 onward, you heard more and more about self-esteem and its importance to your personal development. There was an attempt to build students up through recognition of achievements, both in the class and through extracurricular activity.
Today, though, amazingly enough, schools discourage the idea of “winners” and “losers”—in other words, to build your self-esteem, they took competition out of the game. I find this disheartening and counterproductive. You have to learn how to strategize in order to win; and then, when you do win, you feel great about it. Equally important is learning how to be a good sport when you lose. You can’t win all the time, so you regroup, learn from it, and get ready for the next game. If you are reading this book, it’s because you want to be better—to make yourself more promotable as an employee or more effective as an employer. You’re probably competitive by nature, and that’s a strong and healthy start.
The 2nd Hole - Learn to improve
You can teach yourself how to improve
In golf, you address the ball. This means that you are in position and prepared to hit. At this point, your main concern is whether you are properly aimed at your intended target and whether you are ready to take your shot.
In order to be mentally prepared for your swing, you run through a shot planner or pre-swing routine. There are three basic considerations to keep in mind: am I properly set up, am I properly aligned, and is my ball in the correct position? You need to take a minute to visualize the shot from behind the ball and perhaps even choose an intermediate spot in front of the ball, in line with your primary target, to use as an alignment aid.
This is a learned process. You started out with limited knowledge and experience, but then you worked hard and practiced until you developed your shot plan, your swing, muscle memory, and abilities.
As a result, you are able to visualize your shot; you can walk up to the tee with confidence. You have the attitude of a winner, and everyone can sense it. You have taken the motto “learn to improve” to heart.
With most everything in golf, and in life, you have to admit when you don’t know enough or have the right skills to hit your target. Then you can identify what you need to know and work hard to get there. When you adopt this type of attitude, you become unstoppable.
The Back Nine
The Pursuit of Success
Risk vs. Reward
The 10th Hole: Develop your business role
The 11th Hole: Strategize to get ahead
The 12th Hole: Deal with expectations
The 13th Hole: Empower yourself and others
The 14th Hole: Be proactive
The 15th Hole: Learn from the change-ready company
The 16th Hole: Cultivate team spirit
The 17th Hole: Take the initiative to lead
The 18th Hole: Succeed in the workplace
In “The Front Nine,” we dealt with various attitudes you need to adopt in order to be successful. In this section, I want to look at some of the success strategies you can adopt to help you move up the success ladder faster—some strategies for competitive play.
The 15th Hole - Learn from the change-ready company
Which came first: the change-ready company or the change-ready employee?
It’s one thing to think proactively and even act proactively, but it’s another thing entirely to put that thought process into play and invoke change on a large scale. Companies that effectively do this on a consistent basis are recognized as being “change-ready.” These dynamic companies are high functioning, responsive, and almost fluid in their approach. Working at such a company offers great opportunities for those who thrive on change.
Change-ready companies offer variety and challenge, and they encourage entrepreneurial spirit. As the overall objective of being change ready is to see documented change, those employees and departments responsible for that change are both accountable and noticed. If you perform well, reward and recognition will follow. It can mean instant gratification for your efforts.
The 19th Hole
Everything that you do in life spills over; when things are working in your work life, it spills over to your home life and vice versa. When you look forward with educated optimism, it shows in all that you do. Perhaps educated optimism is the ultimate positive attitude that drives success in our lives.
Avid golfers creatively practice their sport! They check their grip as they grab the handle of a broom, and they test how well they calculate distance as they walk their dog! You might say that avid golfers always keep their game in play—even when off the course.